Build Trust in Kids

As we grow and get more experienced our perception of looking at the magic of  “Things" changes. I will share with you one of the learnings I had during a conversation with my friend some time back. The motivation to share this with you came to my mind today when I came across this question of "How to Love your Kids".

In a small game, the players were asked to choose one of their fellow friends as his/her mentor. I was on the other side and I got My Best Friend "XYZ" as my mentor. We were given separate rooms, and without much interaction between me and XYZ, I was asked to sit on a chair, and XYZ stood behind me and asked me to push the chair with my back as much I could, to the point where the chair would topple backward. I tried and pushed the back of the chair, it tilted a bit on the back, but, released back with a fear of getting hurt on the head if it really toppled. A glass door behind me and a chair on wheels added more to my fear. I tried a few times, but could not topple. XYZ asked me, what is stopping me; my instant answer was “FEAR". But I am your mentor said XYZ, you need to “TRUST" me.

Have you ever tossed your 1-year-old child, off your arms? Recall, those who are a parent, would have noticed (mostly) that your child happily enjoys this with a big smile and laugh on his face, YES! What makes him feel happy? That is, a one-on-one eye contact, with eyes filled with love and care, his/her TRUST in you that you will take all care to prevent not allowing him to falling. This is one of the best ways to love your kids.

1. Develop Trust.

2. Make them feel you are around, even when they are alone.

3. Hug them often.

4. When they do mistakes, explain them with logic in line with child psychology e.g. if he/she breaks something very precious to you, it would be wrong to explain a child in terms of value, instead it be like, explain them, how he/she would feel if his/her favorite toy would be broken.

Art of Delegation

Today I will be sharing with you, my experiences on Art of Delegation… before that let me ask some questions-

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• How many of you have taken a flight from Delhi to say Mumbai? Or traveled by train? I guess most of us.
• How many of you dine out in a restaurant? I guess most of us.
• How many of you have gone to pray for your good beings or to express your gratitude to a Church/temple/mosque. I guess most of us.

Let me ask, have we ever met the driver or the pilot before we board a train or a plane, or the Chef before we dine, or the God before praying, answer in most cases I believe would be NO, yet we delegate. We delegate our travel to the driver, our dining experience to the chef, and our well-being to God, and so on, there can be numerous such examples?

What drives this delegation?

Our Trust! Trust forms the essence of Delegation, what then is the basis of trust? How to build trust?

The trust would come from Delivery and delivery would be one’s Capability.

Therefore, Build Capability, Build Trust, and Delegate for the growth of yourself and your team.