We can never change two things in life — the past and other people. This often causes frustration, especially when we do not get the results we want. Frustration is also a sign of failure; every time you fail to get what you want from others, your self-esteem and self-confidence are affected.
Frustration is a form of anger that stems from failure. In this situation, you allow negative emotions to control you, thereby losing control over yourself and external conditions. Most of the time, situations will not be as you want them, nor will people behave as you expect. Therefore, you need to decide whether to continue allowing others to dictate your reactions, which results in a loss of your rule, control, and personal power, or to decide that no matter how others behave, you rule over your responses; you decide what you want to think, feel, and communicate.
If another person tries to control you and gets frustrated because you don’t do what they want or you aren’t who they expect you to be, they get in a bad mood; they get angry. And then, what do you do? You need to place an invisible barrier or a bridge of good wishes between you and them in such a way that they cannot enter your world with malicious intent, nor do you leave your own circle of positive influence.
Gradually, they lose their dominating influence over you. In the same way, when you try to control people, you lose your positive influence over them. Instead of winning their trust and cooperation, you create a breakdown in communion or sour relations.
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